On the bazaars

1638. — “We came into a Bussar, or very faire Market place.” — W. Bruton, in Hakl. v. 50.

(source: Hobson-Jobson)

There is something incurably romantic about the bazaars within the depths of the cities of India. The term bazaar has been naturalized in the English diction for many centuries now. In fact, if you look at the various usages of the term in dictionaries, a whole new range of meanings connected with human culture and human habitat emerge.

Why am I writing this post on bazaars, such a commonplace habitat of the human world? I really don’t know — just felt the internal urge to connect with you all through some mad trope that attracts me. I have been thinking of a metaphorical connection with the world as a market-place where sometimes we shop things, emotions, moments, and people for real, while at other times we just go window-shopping coming back home empty-handed.

Visually, (taking the V.S.Naipaul kind of description in his India Trilogy) these streets in the bazaars of India are full of dirt, stench, betel-spittle, crowd and smoke.  These gullies appear like breathing, yawning, salivating human-beings who survive in what the rich and the famous would call ‘mediocrity’.  The bazaars (sometimes called haat) are the hubs of cheaper, affordable, and sustainable products. Yet, they are the most living and throbbing places in India.

A brief anecdote, as  Undergraduate students we used to have one day in every six months for ‘hostel duty’ where we were supposed to accompany the caretaker to the daily-haat in Bhubaneswar (famously known as 1 Number Haat). Those days, I dreaded the thought of even going to the haat to buy vegetables and groceries for the entire hostel. The heat, dust, and sweat of these market-places drove me crazy and even if it was 8 o clock of a winter evening, I would come back and take a thorough shower. Looking back into those times, I regret missing many chances of understanding the beauty of the daily market place, perhaps due to my ‘elite’ sentiments. I am not sure if personally I have overcome this distance from the daily markets, but have definitely become more perceptive towards the aesthetic charm of these markets.

The bazaars in India appear to reflect the avarice which is an integral part of human personality but which we human beings continuously try to push into the unconscious or perhaps pretend that it is not there in our personalities.  They reflect the hunger for ‘more’ kind of a sentiment. You can try visiting the markets and feel the need for buying what is completely, purely needless.

To be a nature-lover, searching for pockets that are ‘far from the madding crowd’, silent, and calm have been the passion of many. However, of late I have been observing the joy of the street-side, the openness of the markets, the secret sense of independence that you get when you are bargaining and arguing for  small, insignificant ‘nothings’ and then the pride of grabbing what you might think to be impossible in the scheme of your shopping. The madness of the crowd and the noise of the market-place often make the toughest person crack into anarchy, and also might drive the strictest ascetic to insanity. Try venturing out into the heart of old cities: Hyderabad, Mumbai (Dadar area, Hindmata Market), old Bhubaneswar, Ahmedabad, etc. during the day in the peak summers. You will understand what am I trying to talk of — no less than any adventure sport. However, a word of caution — do carry your water bottles if you try something of the kind.

There is an air of austerity, a moment of  ‘sacredness’ about shopping in the malls which are ‘cleaner’, ‘hygienic’ and  ‘sophisticated’ means of realizing your need for buying things (many of which you perhaps hardly need during this life time). Bazaars on the other hand are a carnival of absolute absurdity — raw, ‘brainless’ and completely ‘anarchic’. You have to shout and argue to finalize your deal here while in a shopping complex or in a mall, there is no question of any bargain. I have been thinking of the movie Confessions of a Shopaholic where brands and ‘smooth shopping’ lead to the debacle of a young shopaholic.  Find that there is something ‘profane’ in the absolute sacredness of the malls. The profanity of the bazaars on the other hand is open, unrestrained, and taboo-less.

The language of the market places are different in India. The vernaculars and dialects rule Indian bazaars. Each bazaar in every state of India is unique and different from the other bazaar — yet there are some common threads. Possibly, this is the only place where one would find communal harmony. Interestingly, here we would see a Muslim selling mithais to a Hindu, or a Sindhi selling textiles to a Bengali. I am often amazed by the kind of ‘harmony’ that economic interdependence could bring among people. One might argue that this harmony observed in bazaars is ‘cosmetic’ and one tiny spark in terms of communal differences could lead to a massive riot killing many.

I had once read an interesting take by Amitav Ghosh in one of his novels about the predicament  small shops in the market places of communally troubled zones. There is a moment in The Shadow Lines where Ghosh describes the Khulna riots and the Dhaka turbulence. This moment reflects the menacing calmness of the bazaars before a riot breaks out. In the novel that moment leads to the death of an ailing, poor old man.  No denying that market places are the breeding grounds of communal tension, yet these are also the places where communities survive without strife, based on peaceful coexistence.

Bazaar is also a term that has perhaps some of the most ambiguous and controversial implications. In Bollywood movies, the term bazaar is used to signify the red-light areas of cities where human trafficking, and flesh-trade is practiced within the heart of ‘ethical’ grounds of orthodox social structures. There is a 1982 movie which comes to mind with Smita Patil, Naseeruddin Shah, Supriya Pathak, and Farooq Sheikh in lead. The movie is itself called Bazaar and it reflects the absolute ‘stubborn’, unchangeable structures of Indian societywhich is more inhuman rather than anything else.

Bazaar_1982_film_poster

Bazaar_1982_film_poster_Courtesy: Wiki-images

The purpose of my thought in this article has been to highlight some of the uncommon aspects of a perfectly common arena like a market-place. Bazaars are colourful and vibrant in India. Yet, they are also places which have a silent menace, a hidden notoriety either in the form of eve-teasing, or else in the form of communal upheavals, or prostitution. But is not life designed the same ways: a combination of black, red, white, and grey shades?

Think about it and share your marketplace experiences :) ….

Goodmorning and do take care of yourselves until we meet again sometime in the timeline….

Passion

Journeying through the fragrance of the evening past,

I play through the entangled boughs of memories and moments,

Searching for the texture of the dreams that faded

And some that fought to last.

I wake up with your touch on my shut lids,

Feeling the traces of tears and the beads of joy,

The thrill of the distance that brings us close

And living the proximity that keeps us apart.

Drawing shapes with fingers on the dust of the times past

I wait for you beyond the cobwebs of shadows and light,

Glancing through the pools of passion

And craving for the silence of the moonlit night.

We count the ticks of taboo and the crosses of freedom,

To transcend that line drawn between “I” and “We”.

As we seek to hear each others voices

Speak through the dull aches of life

And beyond the ecstasies of our self,

Desiring

For just one more moment…

In those beads in the strings of eternity.

Countdowns

Have you ever been through countdowns and Top Tens like US Billboard Top 100s or  UK Top 100s? Ever lived in a countdown? For instance, you knew that you are in a countdown to leave on a particular day from a place, or countdown to a beautiful phase of your life that has a few more moments left? Or countdown to an examination or submission? Or countdown to a rocket/missile test? Pulsating, throbbing, and existing in a pure sense of ‘time’! Countdowns make you sense the value of time — the toughest reality of the Universe.  Living in countdowns is interesting, but not always fun. We perennially live in countdowns — vacation countdown, submission countdown, seminar/ examination countdown, new jobs/new place countdown, wedding/ relationship countdown, etc.

Let me not get into abstract philosophy. Since, am feeling somewhat musical today –  thought of getting a music countdown discussion for you.

While we were at school and before the age of computer games, graphics, and computer-based assignments began, there was a great love for music albums, countdown shows, and Top Tens on Television.  A famous countdown show named “Philips Top Ten”  was aired on Friday evenings at 9.00 pm on Zee Tv.  We were given permission to watch this particular show after completing rolls of the extra notes and home-works. Sometimes celebrities and famous stars were invited to present their list of Top 10 songs and that would be the gala episode. By the time the countdown ended we would be sleepy.  I had imagined that one day I’ll present my own Top-10 songs of all time in Philips Top-10 if I become a celebrity or star :) . In fact, made a list of songs. Thought should share the list today and also spell out reasons I like those songs. Bollywood is so melodious and musical and we breathe so much of music that it is tough to create a countdown actually.

Am just sharing the countdown of my favourite old timers, and not including the new songs here. The range is from the black and white era only. This article is a tribute to the era when the charms of just two colours encapsulated the canvas of Indian cinema.

TEN: From the movie Teesri Kasam (1966): Ae Duniya Banane Wale Kya Tere Man Mein Samayee, tune Kaheko Duniya Banayee??  ….Kahe banaye tune mati ke putle, dharti yeh pyari pyari, mukhde yeh ujle, kahe baneye tune duniya ka maela…gupchup tamashe dekhe wah teri khudayee…sapne jaga ke tune kahe ko de di judayee (Teesri Kasam). (Rough transl: Oh Maker of this world! What struck you that you decided to make such a complex world where there are no human but only statues made of clay? Why did you make the lovely earth, and lovely faces? Why did you make dreams and give those dreams in eyes only to lead us to separation…why do you watch the game of the world silently? ) The song beautifully scored by Shankar Jaikishen and written by Shailendra reflects the simplicity and innocence of a rural setup. The voice of Mukesh is interspersed with dialogues by Raj Kapoor to create an eternal feeling of awe and beauty.  Hiraman  (Raj Kapoor), a poor cart driver narrates the legend of the beautiful and innocent Mahua who was sold off by her step-mother to a Saudagar (merchant), to Hirabai (Waheeda Rehman) the local nautch girl. As the story unfolds, we  come to know that Mahua’s story ironically is the story of Hirabai herself. I have always liked the song because it seems to project all those questions to the maker that we ourselves ask in our innocence.

NINE: Movie Kohra (1964): Yeh Nayan Dare Dare, yeh jaam bhare bhare, zara peene do…kal ki kisko khabar, ek raat hoke nidar mujhe jeene do…. Pyar mein jeevan ki khushi, deti hai khushi kayee gham bhi, main maan bhi loon kabhi haar…tu manena (Rough transl: These deep dark eyes full of fear… let me drink from your eyes…Who knows what lies hidden for tomorrow?) One of my all time favourite singers is Hemant Kumar. His voice reflects a soft baritone, a complete calmness and harmony with rhythm, and rhyme. A very unconventional tone. This particular song from Kohra shows a deep  existential dilemma, a love that is bound to a moment, he keeps saying who knows what will happen tomorrow? Based on the novel Rebecca, the song  itself gives a lilting, haunting effect. I find it one of the most sensuous songs of Hindi Cinema with Waheeda Rehman and Biswajit playing the role of a gorgeous newly wedded couple.

Yeh nayan dare dare...

Clipping of the song

EIGHT: Movie Sujata (1959): Jalte Hain Jiske Liye Teri Ankhon ke Deeye Dhoond Laya Hoon Wohi Geet Main Tere Liye…Dard Banke Jo Mere Dil Raha Dhal Na Saka…Jadoo Banke Teri Ankhon Mein Ruka Jal Na Saka…Aaj laya hoon wohi geet main tere liye…. (Rough Transl: That for which the deeyas of your eyes get lit up, I have searched out and brought such songs for you) . You should watch the song for the beauty of the bygone era and the charm of the land-line phone. Expressions were the greatest factors of cinema of that age and Sunil Dutt sitting on a glass showcase singing the lines to Nutan over the phone is a moment to cherish. Personally, I have grown up hearing this song being hummed by grandma — it’s her favourite song. The story between a high caste Brahmin boy (Sunil Dutt) and a low caste girl (Nutan) is one of the greatest cinematic commentaries on marriage across castes — a problem still persisting in twenty-first century India.

SEVEN: Movie Madhumati (1958): Zulmi Sang Ankh Ladi re…Sakhi Kaa Se Kahoon,Jane Kaise Yeh Baat Badhi…ek din chhota raat badi…Zulmi sang ankh ladi. Mera pagal pana toh koi dekho,  pukaroon main chanda ko sajan ke naam se, manke jadoo ki chhadi se… Zulmi sang ankh ladi re…. (Transl: Need help in translating these lines. Completely at a loss for words) When it comes to Madhumati, I am always stuck with which song to choose? All the songs are equally delightful and unique. Salil Chaudhury‘s music and Shailendra’s lyrics combine to create an eternal musical. This song is less known than Bichhua or Ghadi Ghadi Mora Dil Dhadke or Aaaja re — but the beauty of the song is concealed  in its  rustic language full of mock anger at the object of love who is addressed as ‘ruthless‘ . Lataji’s timeless voice adds to the haunting effect of the song. The charms of a suave Dilip Kumar from the city coolly watching the gorgeous Vaijayanthi Mala dancing unrestrained on the village streets,  something that you can only feel if you observe and perceive. Watch the expressions of Johnny Lever in the song and you will get an idea of what subtle comedy is.

SIX: Movie Khamoshi (1969): Woh Shaam Kuchh Ajeeb Thi, Yeh Shaam Bhi Ajeeb, Woh Kal Bhi Paas Paas Thi, Woh Aaj Kareeb Hai…Jhooki Hui Nigahon Mein Kahin Mera Khayal Tha… Dabee Dabee Hansi Mein Ek Haseen Sa Gulal Tha…Main Soch ta tha mera naam gunguna rahi hai woh, najane kyon laga mujhe muskura rahi hai woh (Rough Transl: There was something starnge about that evening and there is something strange in this evening…). The song is one of my favourite Kishore Kumar renditions. The effect of a Ghazal combined with modern instruments is simply outstanding — the feel of the water rippling across the boat makes the song a delight to the ears.  Watch the expressions of Waheeda Rehman when she sits like a wooden doll on the boat.

FIVE: Movie Pyaasa (1957). Jaane Kya Tune Kahi Jaane Kya Maine Suni, Baat Kuchh Ban Hi Gayee….Sansanahat si hui, Thartharahat si hui, jaag uthe khwab kayee baat kucch ban hi gayee(Rough Transl: Who knows what you said? Who knows what I heard? Something changed and something just snapped….There was some stirring and my soul rose from its deep slumber….). There is something called melody and there is something called performance — Guru Dutt was a master of both. The pursued playfully inviting the pursuer to pursue her — a combination of beauty, grace, wit, charm, and love.  This is one of those lighter songs of Waheeda Rehman and Guru Dutt that stand out in the history of Dutt’s cinematic style. Combining the charms of folk lilt and the mischief in the voice of Geeta Dutt, this song shall remain a core favourite. Moreover, observe the song for its Light and Shadow cinematic technique — simply magnificent.

FOUR: Movie Dil Hi Toh Hai (1963): Laaga Chunri Mein Daag Chhupaaoon Kaise,  Chunari Main Daag Chupaaoon Kaise, Ghar Jaoon Kaise Hogayee Mailee Moree Chunariya, Kore Badan Si Kori Chunariya… Jaake Babul Se Nazrein Milaoon Kaise Ghar Jaaoon Kaise? …Kori chunariya atma mori maill hai maya jaal, woh duniya more babul ka ghar yeh duniya sasuraljaake baabul se nazarein milaoon kaise ghar jaoon kaise? (Rough Trans: My veil has been stained, how do I hide it? Oh, How do I face my father, Oh How do I go home?) This song by Mannadey can be easily branded as the most philosophical song of Hindi cinema. Only Mannadey could have handled such a composition where the soul is compared to a veil and the world to the in-laws place, and God’s abode is thought of as the father’s house. The song speaks of the strife of the world staining the soul. Just listen to the melody, the pure chhandas and aalaaps in Manna Dey’s unparalleled classical rendering. The classical dance by Padmini is so completely in sync with the spirit of the song. The combination of the carnal with the spiritual makes the song a masterpiece of Indian cinema.

THREE: Movie Sahib, Biwi, aur Ghulam (1962): Piya Aiso Jeeya Main Samaye Geyo Re, ke Main taan-maan ki suddh-buddh gawa baithi, har ahat pe samjhe woh aaye gayo re, jhat ghunghat mein mukhda chhupa baithi . The melodious voice of Geeta Dutt somehow deserves much more accolades than has been given to her. Geeta Dutt brings out the raw beauty in melody whether it is Piya Aiso or it is Babujee Dhire Chalna. She remains my favourite voice for all times. Added to the charm of her song, Meena Kumari’s performance in the song brings out the best that Indian cinema could aspire. Especially, observe the two girls helping her out in dressing up — it seems Guru Dutt brings  a painting out of a canvas and places it on the canvas of the camera.

TWO: Movie Kala Pani (1958): Accha Jee Main Haree, Chalo Maan Jao Na, Dekhi Sabki Yaree Mera Dil Jalao Na…Chhote Se Kasoor pe Aise Ho Khafa? Roothe Toh Huzoor The Meri Kya Khataa…. S.D.Burman’s music, Asha Bhonsle and Rafi Saab’s voices combined with out of the world expressions by Madhubala and Dev Saab –  what is called great cinema . There is a moment in the song where Dev Saab sings : “Ho lena kisike” to Madhuabala’s question “Kya Karna Hai Jeeke?” Unforgettable is the only word that I can think of. The playfulness and charm  of the singers flow into the playfulness of the protagonists. I fell in love with Dev Saab instantly when I saw him in this song and in Har Fikr ko Dhuyein Mein Udata Chala Gaya,  Khoya Khoya Chand which are my all time favourites.

A clipping

A clipping

ONE: Movie Howrah Bridge (1958): “Aaiye meherbaan baithyie jaane jaaan, shauk se lijiye jee ishq ke imtihiyaan…” . Shakti Samanta’s movie Howrah Bridge marked the turning point of Hindi cinema. Watch this song as one of the best examples of the earliest forms of Club music and of course my biases for Madhubala is self-evident. Her easy charm, effortless beauty, and extremely expressive eyes add to the beauty of the song. Asha Bhonsle’s voice combines an easy melody and feather-like delicacy in the song. Especially remarkable is K.N.Singh’s glances and expressions — lechery and desire completely overt in expressions. Ashok Kumar’s sophistication acts as the crowning glory.

Let me add that this list is completely incomplete :) . The Black and White era is so rich in Indian cinema that it would be an injustice to say that you have accomplished a countdown with a handful of songs. I have deliberately left out some of my all time favourites like Abhi Na Jao Chhod Kar;  Lag Jaa Gale Ke Phir Yeh Haseen Raat Ho Na Ho; Ajeeb Dastaan Hai Yeh; Main Zindagi Ka Saath Nibhata Chala Gaya; Kuchh Dil Ne Kaha, Kuchh Bhi Nahin; Chalo Ek Baar Phir Se Ajnabee Ban Jaye Hum Dono; Jane Woh Kaise Log The; Hum Bekhoodi Mein Tumko; Aaaja Piya tohe Pyar Doon….. Simply because time and space do not permit me to discuss all these songs on Iris.

Hope you enjoyed the selections here….Do write back with your favourites. Signing off…. Goodnight and take care! :)


Kya Har Ek Friend Zaroori Hota Hai?: On Friendships

“A friend is someone who lets you have the total freedom to be yourelf”  Jim Morrison

Last week I had written about children. This weekend article is dedicated to friendships.

Have you observed the Airtel ad “Har Ek Friend Zaroori Hota Hai?”   and the new Vodafone  Facebook ad ? My Facebook notifications are full of these videos shared by many students and friends. The video has  frequently appeared on my updates. I have been thinking whether friendship is limited to glossy ads and ‘feel good factor’, or romanticizing an emotion, or hyped  movies, or social networking sites, or does it go beyond consumerism?

Who is a friend? Remember Shahrukh’s statement in Kuchh Kuchh Hota Hai: pyar dosti hai… Love is friendship…. ? :)

In school we were taught in the “colloquial expression” segment of English classes that “A friend in need, is a friend indeed” and “fair weather friends” . When we were asked to write an essay on this subject,  all of us wrote how a friend is one who stands by you in your times of trouble and supports you during all tough situations. However, as we start growing up the significance of a friend starts changing and friendships become  our major experimental steps in the lab of life and experience. It doesn’t remain limited to ‘need’ and give and take, but expands to mean much more.

A few days ago I was discussing with someone regarding friendship and love and whether after falling in love, could you still remain good friends — of course you can remain good friends after being in a relationship. But seriously doubt whether you can remain good friends after a breakup :) . Breakups are usually taken as ego hurters, and remaining friends ‘inspite’ of everything is a little tough.  They say “friendship often ends in love, but love in friendship never”.

However, times are changing and friendships are governed by professional needs. We tend to stumble across the same set of people again and again. In that case, past is past tense and we  transit from the mode of love to friendships.

As I was watching these ads,  I was thinking about my own set of friends, people from school days, college years, and job years, where we meet as strangers, fight, but leave a place as friends. I have re-met many of my school friends and college friends on social networking sites, and it has been an absolute delight. However, there is a change that I am observing — a change in emotions, a change in response. Some friends who were distant and indifferent become completely warm, while certain friends who were supposed to be the closest become distant and cold.

From whatever I have learnt in life, categorizing friends is one of the toughest things . However, if someone asked me to categorize my friends, here would be a rough division:

1. The constants: These are friends who have been with you for years. They have seen you through the highs and lows of life. They know without your telling them that there is something right or something wrong in your life. They are the ones you don’t talk to everyday, you might have blamed them for things, but they  come to you the moment you give a call.

2. The Surprises: These are friends who come as surprise packages. You never knew they existed so seriously, so deeply for you. They might be just round the corner, they just take charge when they see you in trouble — a little filmy and a little romantic, but they do exist, quitely observing  your moves, but being there for you and with you.

3. The Fun Bunch: You haven’t thought a single weekend without them. They are the ones who watch the most pathetic love stories with you in the theatre, eat grub on the streets with you, enjoy watching you ask for more golgappas and share the money in restaurants to the last penny. They add colour to your life and make surviving a much easier thing. In cosmopolitan lives of severe pressure like Mumbai, where you are migrants and far from home, they are the ones who take away your loneliness and make your  life much easier.

4. The Professional Well-wisher: You met them at workplaces, you met them at conferences, but they slowly moved to be closer to your lives. They advised you when you got lost in professional alleys, they tell you how to survive, and encourage you when you move ahead. They are sometimes your colleagues, sometimes your seniors, sometimes your super-seniors, but they are people whom you can run to in case of emergencies. They are people who share your professional and sometimes even personal woes.

5.The Critiques: The least noted but the most significant category. They come as friends but they back-stab you, they speak against you in front of others  and in front of yourself — they might be people you trusted, but they used your weakness to climb their own ladder. However, they are the ones who ignite the competitor in you. They are the ones whose words make you work harder on yourself and make you tougher in the battle.

Friends and friendships are a gift.  While at IIT  as a student, I had observed that mostly loners who had no friends actually got into the suicidal mode. I had a very animated and vibrant group of friends then, some of whom went ahead and became leaders in their own fields and workplaces. The group mails that I receive are usually meant to speak of their achievements either in personal or professional spheres –  they give a “feel-good factor”.  Am not sure whether these friends read my blogs anymore, but their influence has been profound.

I must narrate regarding a phase of my life in this context. Post-IIT, life had become bleak. I was lost — friends had moved on with their personal lives and professional requirements. Some  friends who were close, became cold and indifferent. Some friendships got affected by placements in IITs, IIMs  and completing PhD ;) .

I was moving from place to place without stability and without a sense of security. One night I left Indore to come to Jaipur for a job presentation.  I had not got the time to buy food for myself, was tired, lonely and broken because of a series of crises. Fell asleep –  must have been asleep for a very long time. Suddenly, someone’s hand touched my forehead — I woke up with a start — angry and irritated.  From half-open lids I saw a young lady in a burkha standing by me. She told me in Hindi that she has observed me for very long and I have slept for almost half the journey without eating a morsel. I woke-up and saw that she had two little kids and was accompanied by an aged lady.  She was coming back from her mother’s place after a child birth to her husband who has a small cloth store in Jaipur. The way she offered me food, a single roti and a little potato was so touching that I would name it as a friendship that has been beyond all my friendships till date.  I never met her after that, but still remember her face and smile.

Over the past years, I have been learning a lot about friendships and relationships. In fact, rediscovering friendships. I keep telling my students in the class that “be grounded, people are your only achievements — if you have people, you will be able to achieve any success of life.  People actually fulfill us, they are indispensable for us to live and survive through phases.”

Whether they are people who sit with you when you are hospitalized, or when you are professionally drowning, or whether they are people who share jokes, or buy you flowers and chocolates, or simply listen to you crib — they make what is called a humane being. The last few decades has seen an increasing alienation and loneliness in human life. We might be exceedingly good professionals, but if you are alone in your achievements — they are futile.

Before I end, another small fragment from memory regarding  friends of Postgrad days. In case any one of us was upset or angry, we took a guitar and sang  these lines:

“Vo jaake canteen mein Table bajaake

Vo gaane gaana Yaaron ke saath.

Bas yaadein Yaadein Yaadein reh jaati hain

Kuchh chhoti Chhoti Baatein reh jaati hain Bas yaadein…” (Purani Jeans)

Happiness is infectious na? Sadness is also contagious. When we are happy, the world seems to reflect our happiness and especially friends celebrate with us, but if we are sad we are mostly alone, and even if there is a single friend with us, we should consider ourselves fortunate. Friends wait for a single call — you just have to reach out with an open heart and they will be there to hold your hands and stand for you. If you ask me, actually yes “har ek friend zaroori hota hai” . But, yes you have to earn your life long friends….

P.N. : This post is dedicated to all my friends over the past many years.  Whether I met you last month or last year, or in childhood, wherever, you all are… I miss you and cherish each  friendship.

Other Side of the Coin: What Kind of Education?

The story that I heard today really disturbed me. I got a frantic call at 9 am this morning from someone I know very well. Tired, after a hectic weekend, I was in no mood to pick-up the call or talk to this person — however as goes my disposition, I picked up after two missed calls. This lady was calling me up to know what should she do with her twelve year old niece, studying in class -IXth? How should she counsel her? I was intrigued, asked her if there were those pre-teen age problems that many kids encounter these days involving friends, boys, and parents-children dynamics. She was confused and said I must hear the entire story before I can draw my conclusions. I am writing this article with her permission.

She told me that this young lady of twelve years has been harassing her eighty year old grandmother, to give her a complete control over her grandfather’s house and three bedrooms of that house. Not only that, she wants all the property like beds, chairs, sofas, and books, of her late grandfather removed from the rooms of the house and thrown out, because they are old and unnecessary.  She wants the house arranged as per the tastes of her and her friends. Moreover, she has apparently threatened the old grandmother to throw her out of the house if she is not given her ‘share’. I just couldn’t believe my ears — how can a twelve-year old say something like that? It’s a joint family property, the lady informed me and they have a lot of emotional attachment to these properties as the last token of memory of their late father.

Sleep vanished  and I replied “what!” How can such a small kid say these things? This is not possible — kids are completely beyond these adult skirmishes about properties and land. These are school-going children, how can they be a part of these unnecessary family quarrels.” I have briefly met this little girl before — she is a bright young lady, studying in a “good” school, getting fairly good grades. However, this came as a complete shock for me.

I hung-up and made enquiries from other family friends and they all confirmed the news. The old lady is petrified and she has been sent off to the home of some other relatives for a week or so. I called back my acquaintance and asked her that “how does this girl study? when does she get the time to study if she has been into threatening and fighting  her own folks? are the parents instigating her?” My curiosity was regarding the education and the way all these internal family disputes existing in the crumbling joint family structures affect the studies and psyche of children. As far as I remember, our parents were extremely finicky about our education. They went to the extent of being over-protective when we were studying, such that internal family matters, were kept out of the ambit of all children. We were not even invited to sit in the drawing room when uncles, aunties, parents gathered. And here is a child who is threatening her grandparent for a ‘share’ in the property! Completely incomprehensible for me.

I got a strange and intriguing response. The lady told me “You see these are the new generation children. They are very planned and focused. They know very well that CBSE boards have been relaxed and with the new grading systems, every other person gets a First Division and in fact good grades.  They are completely sure of the grades they want and the grades that they get. Moreover, they can threaten with suicides and other such steps in extreme cases, saying that studies are disturbing their mental balance. They do not aim for the best in higher studies — they know very well that a seat can be easily secured in the engineering colleges of their own locality, and after that a job in a company or a small startup is guaranteed. What else do they need? They just have to finish their school, engineering studies and go for a job. With a future as secured as that, what else do they need to do — spend time on Facebooking, talking for hours over mobile phone, or threatening grandparents to concede their properties. They are well-prepared for their future. They do not need parents to fight these battles — they can fight their own battle of inheritance.”

I am shocked  to hear this interpretation. Grades, schooling, higher-studies — everything build us up, true, but I had sincerely not thought of the moral and ethical dimensions involved in them.  It was shocking for me, because after years of higher-education, we are still unclear  about our own future — how can these kids be so secured? If they are then I would call it a dangerous level of complacence and a dangerous trend for a still developing society.

A few years ago my cousin sister-in-law had visited me at the hostel at IIT with her two and half year old kid. We went to shop in a mall. This little child was so sure of what he wanted to wear that I was completely surprised. She could not buy a single dress that was not his choice — if she did, he shrieked at the top of his voice and ran away to hide in the trial room :) . I was amused then, but later was scared of the coming generations. Children being completely isolated and purely independent at very early ages disturbs me. Many of our moms still buy our clothes and advise us what to wear and what not to, friends advise us what to choose, grandparents advise us what to think, dads tell us what investments to go for, we tell ourselves which advises to seek and which not to. It is a collective activity  :( …..

I am not a sociologist or a psychologist to be able to comment on these changes in the society. I think from an idealistic perspective.  Even though single, I am crazily fond of kids — have an idea that children can do or think no wrong and if they are, then it is we who are to be blamed. But, I am seriously rethinking our own stance as adults in the society. Are we into literacy rather than education? Education teaches you to be wise and sensible, but literacy teaches you only alphabet that can cater to your hunger, not your wisdom.  What are we doing to our children? What are we preparing them for? The case of this little girl is not an isolated case –  have been hearing similar cases for some years. I often ask my students in the class regarding what literary books have they read? They reply with none or one or two cursory readings. I find it truly dangerous — reading and reading beyond texts is important if we have to develop the ethical, moral and the ‘thinking’ side of individuals.

Agreed, that children should not be over-protected and nor should they be pampered — they should be given rights to voice their opinion. Agreed, that some grandparents are conservative to the extent of being over-interfering in the life of grand children. But, is it desirable that children should be allowed to talk about inheritance and property at such early stages? If I were a parent, I would be extremely strict about such issues being discussed by my child. It would be  unacceptable.

I am confused and nervous about this parenting business. I have heard a statement that “men go for wives who they think can prove to be good mothers for their children”. I am rather unsure of the entire adult population now, men or women — you might call me old fashioned or conventional, but a generation that doesn’t care for its senior citizens will be insensitive towards a lot of other things in my opinion. You might agree or choose to disagree.

Fragments

I sit here unmoving, unthinking, un-thought of

And watch things transforming, moving and melting away into oblivion.

I stare at people watching these transformations all by themselves,

I gaze into their eyes and find nothing but vacuum of an empty existence,

Or fumes of an ever-fading, sometimes ignorant past.

I think of relationships that made me and some that were made by me,

And feel them vanishing away from my clutches as granules of sand.

I dream of deafening silences and indolent nothingness,

Then watch these dreams fading into vapours of reality.

Strange, I see myself…

Watching, dreaming, feeling, fading and melting into that unknown.

What am I? A mere dot on the margin of other lives?

Or a shadow of a reality falling apart with the darkness of each passing second?

I wish I knew…

What am I?

NOTE: While searching for some papers inside the cupboard, found these lines that I had scribbled in an old notebook . A friend had typed this and kept it in the form of my manuscript with a collection called  ‘Silent Echoes’ .

Random Musings: Gulzar’s ‘Mausam’

Mujhko Bhi Tarkeeb Sikha Koi Yaar Julahe….
Aksar Tujhko Dekha Hai Ek Tana Bunte
Jab Koi Taga Toot Gaya Ya Khatam Hua
Phir Se Baandh Ke Aur Sira Koi Jodh Ke Uss Mein
Aage Bun’ne Lagte Ho….
Maine Tou Ek Baar Buna Tha Ek Hi Rishta
Lekin Uski Saari Girhain Saaf Nazar Aatee Hain Meray Yaar Julahe. ~ Gulzar, (Rough transl: Oh Weaver! Teach me a method too to weave…Often, have I observed  you weaving through one strand…until a thread broke or melted into the cloth…You then take up one of the corners of the cloth with a new thread and start weaving once more….But I, I had tried to weave only once only one relationship…but all the openings in the cloth are so clearly visible, oh friend Weaver! )

A student wrote to me ‘Ma’am there are professors and there are human beings — you will soon transcend the second one to become the first’.  I protested saying that it’s not true, a profession cannot compete with the attribute of being human. The debate was on for sometime and he said that those who teach (especially literature) use sentiments without getting sentimental.  Perhaps, he was right to a certain extent, the need for being scholarly, for being an ‘ideal’ is so strong that sometimes we lose that little gesture of human-ness that would be relevant as a yardstick to setup that ideal.  His statement took me back to my University days (confessional), when one of my Professors had pointed out to a few friends who used to hang out regularly with me and were core supporters of my brainless pranks, ‘Be careful of her. Nothing and no relationships will come in the way of her ambitions — you will fail, while she will will move on to her next destination’ . I had cried the entire night the day that comment had come, nothing was more important for me at that point of time than friends, but perhaps my teacher was right, subliminally I was trying to negotiate my own ways — alone

However, when it comes to feelings and sentiments, no one is an exception — desire to be acknowledged, desire to be loved, desire to be desired is universal and as a human being I have been no exception. We all fail only at the doorsteps of our sentiments.

These personal anecdotes refreshed the memory of a movie that has been a favourite — Gulzar sahab’s Mausam (1975). Thought will pay a small tribute to the maestro on his Birthday (18th August) with this article. It has been raining here profusely and my health, a week of hospitalization, has made me more philosophical  — watched this movie again on my laptop with the rains shimmering down the windows.

A sepia look outside the window

A sepia look outside the hospital window

I have been trying to write on Gulzar  for very long, but every time write something, I delete the post.

Mausam

Mausam

‘Mausam’  reconnects us with these sentiments, emotions, feelings, attachments that are common to all species of the Universe.   It is the story of a medical student Amarnath Gill who comes to live in Darjeeling on a vacation  before his final medical exams and falls in love with an innocent hill-girl, Champa, daughter of the Vaidya. After the vacations he returns back to Calcutta to complete his medical studies and decides to come back to marry the girl. As destiny has  it, when he finally returns it is 35 years later. His life as a highly successful surgeon and manufacturer of a unique pain-killer keeps him busy for all these years. Dr. Gill’s search for the girl begins on a casual note  and starts getting denser with every new mystery, until one day he reaches the place where she actually lived her last life as a mentally challenged person — she died eight months before his coming back to Darjeeling, waiting for him to come back till her last breath. Guilt-ridden the doctor decides to search for Champa’s only daughter Kajri, adopt her and give her the life that her mother deserved. As fate ordains, the doctor finds Kajri in a hen-cooped brothel, mouthing the choicest slang, and living the life of a drunkard, chain-smoker, prostitute. She is rescued from the mohalla and taken by Dr. Gill to the rest-house. He tries to ‘civilize’ her, make her wear sarees and live as a daughter, while not revealing to her that he is the man who is responsible for the destruction of her mother and her own life. The twist comes when Kajri falls in love with the aged doctor and when he reveals to her that he did not come back to Champa because of a shame when he was jailed for an accidental death of a patient during a surgery.  There is some sort of a compromise when in the end the doctor adopts her and takes Kajri back to Calcutta, saying: “Mere saath chalogi? Peeche mud ke dekhne keliye hum dono ke paas kuchh nahin bacha hai.”  (Will you come with me? Both of us have nothing to look back upon.)

Gulzar’s craft is such that little subtleties of life and emotions are captured with an unspeakable brilliance.  In addition, a power-packed performance by Sanjeev Kumar as the doctor and a double-role by Sharmila Tagore as Champa and Kajri, make the movie a classic in its own ways.Realism and masterly acting and craft effortlessly blend in the movie.

There are social messages in Gulzar’s stories, be it Kitab (1977) or Khushboo (1975) or Ijazaat (1987), but what is unique is that they do not sermonize.  Gulzar is a poet and his movies and scripts are poetry in motion and vision, of course with a strong undercurrent of realism. The social messages are embedded in his portrayal of human emotions which seem to be his priority especially interpersonal relationships.

An interesting aspect of the movie when you observe it closely is the casualness with which the movie begins and the seriousness with which it ends. Watching the movie, I felt that the doctor did not come back to Darjeeling with any heightened romantic aspirations of meeting the girl whom he loved through his life. He casually refers to his co-workers when they come to meet him that there was an ‘accident’ — the accident being he fell in love with a girl.  It is only when he starts tracing her and meets several characters, unique in their own ways,  keep giving him fragments of information about the girl, while reminding him,  ‘she was a nice girl, but she was waiting for some doctor to come back…but does anyone come back once they leave?’ With every new character reminding him of his guilt of deserting his love, the passion to search for her grows stronger in the doctor. As the plot unfolds, so do the loss, the pain, the wait, each strand of emotion slowly unfold. Life too reflects this subtlety — emotions sometimes flood, while at other times they wait to haunt you and return to you with a slow, deliberate pace.

Mausam is also about modernization of smaller towns of India and the slow urbanization of the medical system. Encounters between the village Vaidya (Champa’s father) and the Allopathic doctor are remarkable. These seem to be symbolic encounters between two completely different systems of thought.  There are specific names of the herbs that the Vaidya uses. Even Champa is an adept apothecary. When doctor Gill comes back to Darjeeling after a long interval, there  is no trace of the Vaidya Thapa. People of his own locality have completely forgotten him and it is the modern medicinal practices that are ruling in the small towns too. In fact, there is an interesting moment in the story when Dr. Gill has a headache and he goes to the Chemist and asks him to give him an Asprin. The Chemist offers him his own invented medicine. He responds in a tongue-in-cheek fashion to the Chemist, saying ‘no don’t give me Gill’s tablet because that has a lot of Chlorine’.

The girl Champa looses her mental stability while waiting for the doctor to come back.  She keeps telling people around her that she will make Kajri a doctor and get her married to a doctor. Through Kajri, Champa lives in a different form — while Champa is about the unsullied emotion of love, Kajri knows only the language of lust. Kajri is a commentary on the life of girls of small towns, bereft of education or a decent parental upbringing. Champa spends her life in a small weaving factory, weaving clothes, waiting for her love to come back, and fighting her mental derangement. While Kajri is forced into prostitution by the surreptitious moves of her own society and people.

Mausam is an extremely powerful commentary on not only the emotion of love or lust, but also the changing patterns of social and cultural thoughts. Such movies are rare in the history of Bollywood cinema — they make what is truly unique in Hindi cinema. When you are watching this movie, watch it curled up in your bed, with a hot cup of tea, undisturbed by the noise of the world outside, with the rains pattering at your window — perhaps then you get a feel of Gulzar’s art and his craft.

Sepia -- the window through an empty glass

One of my friends recently told me, ‘life is full of options…koi kisi keliye mara nahin jaa raha hai…’move on’ ….’ I have had a few questions — is it intellectual and emotional honesty to regard love in terms of options? When we are talking about human integrity and corruption-less society, does that come from too many options? Does emotional integrity in individuals figure anywhere in building up a superstructure of a larger society? Probably, yes…. Gulzar’s movies show a different trend — they seem to depict a deep emotional integrity, an honesty — a dogged dedication, conviction to one human being or one ideology.  Whether that human being or that ideology is correct or wrong is an altogether different question and different subject.

The Unspoken

In the first week of a long vacation, Iris is back with her weekend post. The laptop is running on battery, Internet connectivity is at its least possible speed. At the moment, there seems to be no trace of electricity, with thunder storms greeting me to the charms of the east. The shadow of bougainvilleas, calmness of the streets, smell of damp earth, and the extreme quietness of the place leads me to turn poetic or philosophical. The hulla of my own world, chaos of my thoughts,  and the calmness of this place are so deeply contradicting one another.

It is going to be an erratic one month. Not sure how often will I be able to get in touch with my readers through this month.

Since the mood is philosophical, thought about sharing some of my musings on the ‘unspoken’. What do you think of the unspoken? Recently, a student wrote a lovely line to me: “ whatever we speak, there is still some beauty in the unspoken”. I have been thinking about the unspoken aspects since.

Actually, it is true – we are so literally understood by what we say that what is left unsaid is something that either no one cares to interpret or else we are apprehensive to interpret. A person is usually adjudged by the personality that she/ he projects to the external world through what she/ he says or does – but what remains within is something that the world hardly tries to penetrate. Who has the time or patience? If you have seen the movie Mera Naam Joker you might understand my implication. In that movie, the character of the protagonist (Raj Kapoor) is taken literally, as a ‘joker’, a ‘clown’ and his love which perhaps was more serious than the love of all the other  male characters in the movie, is interpreted as a comedy by the ladies. His story remains incomplete because he is seen as a frivolous character, with hardly any show of substance or rationality. The joker’s deep philosophy on the nature of life and love as an experience is misinterpreted as ‘non-seriousness’ and the rest of his actual feelings remain unspoken till his death.

The unsaid has its root in human life and human personality. What we read as ‘history’ is the said aspects of human civilization, but what we take as rumour might be a part of the unspoken aspects of human histories that somehow were swept under the carpet of time. I can recollect such an aspect from the memory of a play that I had once seen during my first year at Performing Arts Festival (PAF) at IIT. The story was about the unspoken aspect of Shahjehan and Mumtaz Mahal’s love story  culminating in the Taj Mahal. In that particular PAF play, they had shown that apparently there is a conspiracy theory that the Taj was built with Mumtaz being forced to die in order to give her name to the monument, and to make a great love-story out of her death. I don’t know what were the sources for that play, but they had actually beautifully depicted the unspoken aspects of histories that do not get written in any text-book.

Love-stories and mystery thrillers particularly rest on the trope of the unspoken. They invite you to keep questioning on ‘really?’, ‘what happened next?’ and other such aspects. Real life love stories are heavily dependent on the unspoken. What is said is just a part of the entire gamut of things that remain unsaid. I have seen friends and people whom I know who are in love, keep harping the point that ‘oh there is so much to know about her/him’, there is so much to talk about. Possibly, it is that pull of the unspoken because of which people spend hours over phone (I am against such hour long conversations in principle :) ), trying to know more about the other.

Perhaps, this burden of the unspoken also forms the core reason behind divorces, and break-ups. In the entire lot that has been said, there also  remain a lot that goes unsaid – because of communication gaps. How often you think of friends, family, or colleagues who have distanced themselves from you because of the unsaid words that cluttered up between you and them? Have you had a friend or a person whom you really loved a lot but with whom you haven’t spoken for months or years? It is when the unspoken piles up beyond proportion that communication failure occurs.  You wish to get in touch or speak to this person for months and years on, but then the weight of words and the weight of that which remains unsaid are so high that finally the necessity of communicating get destroyed. Relationships are so fragile that a few words have the power of destroying or building them beyond imagination.

Not only in love, in professional life too the unspoken has so much of a presence that spoken words get completely interpreted, re-interpreted, and mis-interpreted along the lines of the unspoken. Somewhere you are able to defend the unspoken and at some places, spoken words go defenseless.

The purpose of this brief post was to highlight the necessity of not only the unsaid, but also that which is said. We need sometimes to speak-up our minds, to clear up miscommunication, to talk, and get in touch with people who are important in our lives. Yes, some aspects are better left unsaid, but many more need words and courage. What I feel unfortunate in case of spoken words are, when the character of people, their integrity, their commitment, their dedication towards relationships and life are adjudged along what they speak and what they do not. A joker, or a clown doesn’t necessarily mean to be a joker – it’s just the surface. People choose friends or partners as per their appearances or their outward seriousness of disposition – who assesses the magnitude of what the person is ‘not’ displaying?

With that, I concede that some weeks of Iris may remain unspoken….. Hope to meet you all sometime soon, no idea when exactly, depends on my mood and time. Till then, humming this favourite number of Gulzar saab from the movie Thodi si Bewafai  which seem to echo my thoughts on the unspoken:

Unhen yeh zidd ki hum bulaate,

Hamen yeh umeed ke woh pukaare

 Hain naam hothon pe ab bhi lekin,

 Awwaz mein pad gayi daraare…

Hazaar rahen mudke dekhi,

Kahin se koi sada na aayi..

Badi wafa se nibhayi tumne,

Hamari thodi si bewafaii… 

(Rough transl.: They were obstinate to wait for my call, and I had the hope that they will call me first. The names  still linger on our lips, but the wall of voices within have now cracked….Thousands of miles I turned back to see if you would call me once, but there has been not a single call through these miles…How faithfully have you abided by my slight unfaithfulness)

Waiting…

It’s odd how people waiting for you stand out far less clearly than people you are waiting for.  — Jean Giraudoux

Have you ever waited for someone or something really hard? Waited until either you succeeded or else completely failed, lost, and the waiting brought lifelong tears in your eyes? We all wait consciously or unconsciously, to hear from people who matter or mattered to us, we wait to achieve success in our careers or goals, we wait for a particular TV soap/film, we wait for an article/paper to be published, we wait for a weekend edition, we wait for a loved one to acknowledge our presence, we wait for our bosses in the office, we wait for appreciation, we wait for the seasons/time to change, we wait for exam results, we wait for jobs, in fact we wait for a baby to arrive in 9 months …. If you look around life is a jig-saw puzzle of waiting, achieving, and waiting to achieve …. :)

You might ask, why is Anne creating boredom, while we were ‘waiting’ for her weekend post. Precisely, the point is there are a lot of subtle aspects related to everyday lives which go unnoticed. While the great and the grandiose find a place in our conversations, the little things of life slip out like grains of sand.

Let us come to practicalities rather than abstractions.

Recently, one Saturday evening I was getting hell bored sitting in my apartment balcony, sipping tea, watching people going out with their families/ friends to perhaps the nearest market, malls, theater, or meeting some relatives. My aloneness and musings didn’t help and the Gmail and Facebook online buttons also started getting me far more irritated, because I didn’t want to chat with anyone from my side. I was “waiting” that someone might just drop in to say a ‘hi, how are you?’.

When no amount of self-musings helped, I got ready, decided to treat myself in a good restaurant in and around this place, get some Ice-creams while coming back home, curl into bed and watch a movie on my laptop with the bowl of Ice-cream. Found a restaurant, quite close by to the place where i am living in now.  As I sat with the menu card and was mumbling some order to the waiter, caught a glimpse of a very young girl sitting in the far corner of the restaurant. She must be around 19 or 20 years. From her dressing up it appeared to me that she was dressed-up for some special occasion — perhaps a birthday, perhaps an anniversary, perhaps a date….

She was particularly striking, large eyes kohled beautifully, a dab of lipstick, and eye shadow, an elegant pink salwar kameez with a tiny bindi, and a very pretty demeanor.   She stood out in the entire restaurant, where others had just come with their families to chill-out, or people like me who were there by accident rather than by design. This restaurant has a special thing — whether you are a couple or a family or a lonely hearts club member, the first thing they do is get a small vase with one fresh pink/red rose bud and keep it right in front of you :) . I found the rose on my table quiet ironical :) . However, as I observed the girl on the other table, the rose seemed perfect for her — they were made for each other.  I could make out from her impatience that she was “waiting” for someone — perhaps a friend, a family member, boyfriend, girl friend…. She kept on playing with the paper tissue, keeping the waiters off, mumbling them to come later, looking out of the glass windows again and again. 10 minutes passed, 15 minutes passed…. I had placed my order by now — noodles and a glass of juice. Couldn’t help myself from observing her actions. She got fidgety — then called the waiter and ordered something for two people. The waiters who were watching her, looked mockingly and were smiling as they took orders from her. She kept on trying someone’s phone from her cell-phone, apparently the phone was busy or it was switched-off I can’t say.

My order was placed in front of me, and thankfully since I had no one to wait for at that point of time, started to enjoy the food. Nearly, 10 minutes later I observed that the girl had tears in her eyes. She was dabbing her eyes with her kerchief. After a while, the waiters couldn’t wait anymore and her order was brought to the table. There was a lot of food, rice, dal, paneer, raiyata. The girl was really worried now — she kept on trying some number but no response. She looked completely flushed, and almost on the verge of tears. Felt really terrible for her. After a few minutes, I saw her paying the bills and walking out of the restaurant. The food remained untouched, everyone around were observing as was I.  She walked out in a hurry, with her head bowed, tears streaming down her cheeks. People had enough materials to gossip about after she left the restaurant.

Hmmm… as I walked back home, I kept thinking for a while not just about her but about the person for whom she was waiting.  What must have happened that he (I assume from her ways that it was a ‘he’) did not turn up? How could someone be so heartless as not to call up and ask her not to wait…. Anyway, for an individual that one wait is so long that it can form an impression of a life time.

When I think of my own waitings, it seems I have entire basket full. While studying, i had always dreamt of having a beautiful house with a balcony and  a nice easy chair where I can sit and look out at the world. That wait is over — but there are so many more things worth waiting for.

International news these days is also all about waiting. I try to keep international news away from this blog because of deliberate reasons. However, couldn’t resist this one — United States has been waiting for years to grab Osama, until suddenly the Abbotabad operation happened and the wait abruptly ended. Waiting to grab an international terror suspect is alright, but the question is how far glorifying violence is appropriate? I was repeatedly getting pictures of a battered, blood-covered dead man on my Facebook page — apparently a spam. However, the picture of it was itself so gory that couldn’t get it rid of my mind’s eye. What kind of world are we forming? Violence engenders violence — one death leads to a series of avenging, a crazy puzzle of revenges and counter-revenges. Life is about living and loving, not about mayhem. When we take a pride in violence, the same violence ‘waits’ to return back to us in some or the other form.

If you have to wait, wait for something positive, something constructive that would make the world a better place to live.  There are so many things which are really worth living and waiting for — whether it is to serve the community, or family, or friends, or the world, or even yourself. Let us try to make that wait worthwhile, rather than spoil it with anger and negativity.

At the moment I can’t wait to get out of my office and breathe the air outside….

Do I Hate Love Storys: Bollywood Chapter

The IPL season is not a great time to talk of movies :( .

Some readers of Iris have been reviewing that Anne possibly likes only Hollywood and Hollywood love stories. Not true :) . Anne is actually  nervous to review Bollywood — there is so much love, music, and drama here that it’s tough  to leave out some and take others into account. Indians actually in spite of all arranged marriage systems, in spite of parental controls, family inclination, promises to remain dedicated to the sanctity of the marital knot — are the most romantic. Don’t believe me? Watch Balraj Sahni and Leela Chitnis in that song Ae Meri Zohra Jabeen from the movie Waqt (1965).

I am daring to take one step and presenting to you my picks of love stories from Bollywood.  This list is not exhaustive.

Let us begin with the original, the fatalistic, the ultimate love antidote — Devdas (1955) . One movie which has been adapted and re-adapted n number of times. Based on the Bengali novel (1917) of the same name by Sarat Chandra Chattopadhyay, Devdas (pronounced as Debdash in Bengali) is a saga of doomed love.  Reading the novel is a different experience altogether. There is a complete dreariness in the writing of Saratchandra unlike the glossy, dramatic effect achieved in the modern adaptation of the novel by Sanjay Leela Bhansali. It’s  an existential novel in its own way. In fact, in the novel, at the end, the body of Devdas remains unattended to be taken away by Doms and Chandals (lowest classes of the society). The starkness of the narrative could only be matched by the classic acting of Dilip saab as the Devdas in the 1955 version of the movie.  Directed by Bimal Roy, the movie has epic dimensions. Personally, I could never watch the movie as a child because of Dilip saab’s extremely slow dialogue delivery, and because of the starkness of the background and the slow movement of the plot. Watched the movie very late in my life — the result, I could not watch anything else for months. Dilip Kumar is the very manifestation of Deb, the rich, misguided and arrogant Zamindar, whose love remains incomplete partly because of his own stubbornness and partly because of cultural pressures. Suchitra Sen as Parvati is a dream, without any make-up, without the gloss of the modern adaptations of Paro, she gives the impression of what love as someone’s object for desire can be.  Her eyes are enough to speak volumes. It’s such a surprise to see Paro coming to Devdas a few days before her marriage and pleading him to run away with her — women can be so passionate when they are in love, she epitomizes the virtue of faithfulness in love. Paro is much ahead of her times as a character. Vaijayanthi Mala’s dance number on Lata ji’s song Ab age teri marzi, has always intrigued me for no defined reasons.Bimal Roy is not just an iconic director, in Devdas he is a narrator par excellence who can actually bring love into the visual medium with the starkness of life.

Devdas is not my only favourite of Dilip saab — I am a huge fan of Madhumati (1958) another Bimal Roy creation and written by Ritwik Ghatak. Actually, in the hostel friends used to tease me for watching that movie multiple times with the dialogues like Babuji!! Aap lautke jaldi aaoge na? :) ….True this movie could make rebirth and love across births a real cliche in Hindi film making.  The movie combines love across births, with haunting, debauchery, life of the plantation workers, and the beauty of the mountains. This is one of my all time favourites of Pran saab in the negative role of the Zemindar Ugranarayan who eyes Madhumati and ultimately leads to her death, when Anand is away to the city. However, Dilip Kumar in a loose Western suit as the manager of the tea plantation, serenading Suhana safar aur yeh mausam haseen…shall remain an unforgettable impression. That terrific dance number “Zulmi sang ankh ladi, sakhi kaa se kahoon…din chhota raat badi”  filmed on Vaijayanthi Mala speaks of the liberal spirit, the untainted life of the mountains.

I don’t know, but usually get stuck in the 1950s. Just one more entry and we move beyond — Guru Dutt. I always resist writing about Guru Dutt, partly because of an awe for him and partly because I consider him as the guru of film-making along with Satyajit Ray.  Pyaasa (1957), some viewers would argue is a social movie. I would however argue that it is also a love story par-excellence. While, Kagaz ke Phool has an actress, as the object of love, I find Pyasa special because of its idea of a class-less love. Waheeda Rehman as Gulabo the prostitute who is the only soul that truly loves the failed poet Vijay (Guru Dutt), seems like eternity herself. Her innocence combined with her cheekiness makes her a delight to watch on screen. She defends and preserves his poems more than her own life. Remember the song “Hum apki ankhon mein duniya ko bhoola den toh?” (rough transl: what if I forget the world by being lost in your eyes?) Gulabo the character stands in stark contrast to Meena (Mala Sinha), the poet Vijay’s love from his college days, the elite, the love that betrayed him to get married to a rich publisher.

I used to host Guru Dutt film festivals in my room during my hostel days — each of the movies, whether Sahib, Biwi, aur Ghulam, Mr. and Mrs. 55, or Chaudvin ka Chand interweave love with social and cultural issues.

I have never been able and nor is it likely to happen in my life that I would admire any actress as much as Waheeda ji and Madhubala. Beauty, charm, and intelligence along with acting manifest themselves in these actresses.

How can one forget the cult, the heavy, the highly literary Mughal-e-Azam (1960). I will not describe this movie much except the fact that through histories it has been proved that if there are chains on a particular emotion, it would find expression in some other form. Pages have been written about the classic song Jab Pyar Kiya toh Darna Kiya… with the gorgeous Anarkali (Madhubala) dancing herself out in lakhs of mirror pieces, looking deep into the eyes of the emperor of the Mughal dynasty and challenging him in the open Durbar to just attempt from stopping her to love Sehzada Saleem. It seems as if pages of history can be turned by just one moment of dark passion. Personally, my favourite song of the movie is Mohe Panghat pe Nandlal Chhed Gayo Re…. This song is magical in picturisation — Madhubala with the half- drawn veil, coyly looking at Saleem, while singing thumri and dancing Kathak on the slow beats, is simply ethereal. That particular song exudes purity and sensuousness. Some sources have said that Mughal-e-Azam marked the high-point in the drama of Dilip Kumar-Madhubala real life love story. The movie is not for the faint-hearted — you should have the patience,  aptitude for Urdu, and the  ability to place yourself in that historical moment.

If I would have been a film-maker, my dream would be to make a movie like Guide (1965). This movie (in my opinion) is a movie that is complete in every aspect. Produced by Dev Anand and directed by Vijayanand, the movie is an experience on celluloid. The interpenetration of love and philosophy with the best quality music finds its complete expression in the movie. This movie remains special for very personal reasons too apart from the cinematic excellence: (a) Dev saab is my romantic dream and my icon. As a tiny girl, I had often said that I want to marry Dev Anand (that hasn’t changed with Salman, Amir, and SRK in the block :) ); (b) The song Piya tose naina lage re made me break the microphone and a friend’s tabla in the university when I was practicing dance (of course badly) based on that song. Personal anecdotes apart, this movie glorifies love in its most unrestrained and passionate form. Rosy, the wife of an archeologist Marco (who doesn’t care an iota about her), breaks free from the rules of the society and conventions to assert her identity as a dancer. She is helped by the tour guide played by Dev Anand who fights his mother and uncle to make the dreams of Rosy transform into reality. Guide is a movie that shows love in the greyest shades — the love of Rosy and Raju guide being based on unacceptable norms of the society, and Raju’s forgery of Rosy’s signature on Marco’s papers. Remember that scene when Rosy dances her heart out in the snake-charmers hamlet?….ohhhh! what a scene depicting the grey passion of a woman who has been suppressed for ages! I have never seen a better  snake dance sequence. Dev Anand strikes the cord as the ultimate scape-goat to pseudo-religion as the fasting Swami who would bring  rains to the rain-starved village.

Cut to 1970s, Abhimaan (1973) is my Amitabh Bacchan favourite. Personally, along with Chupke Chupke, Shakti, and Trishul, this is my Bachhan favourite. The love story showing the complexities of a married life between two equally talented, same profession couple is just so contemporary and realistic in its presentation. Just love that moment in the movie when Amitabh Bachhan comes back after a very long time to his wife, a more talented singer herself, suffering from the mental trauma of her husband’s indifference,  turned a stone in herself.  He sees her as a lifeless body that is alive only with the hope of his return. That song tere mere milan ki yeh raina… is so absolutely poignant in the visual and the musical effect.In fact, each and every song of that movie is so lilting.

Unconditionally love Silsila (1981), not for Amitabh Bacchan but rather for Rekha and Sanjeev Kumar. A year ago, a friend and I had spent one whole night translating Silsila for another friend who did not understand Hindi (I still imagine my friend translating Neela Aasman so Gaya as Blue sky sleeps, sleeps, sleeps :P …! ). First time did I realize that the movie is so dense in content and meanings. Apart from the larger than life gorgeous Rekha in her Satin sarees and deep maroon lipstick and long open tresses (that movie can make any not-so-good looking woman duck :( ), the movie stands out for its extraordinary performance . What I feel uncomfortable about that movie is the last scene forced “Indian” reconciliation to the age old marital bond, where the protagonists have to return back to their lives after a series of misadventures. However, Silsila is more modern in its treatment than many movies of our times.

Love in its multiple facets is a dense aspect in the Bollywood context. The movies that I have listed here were released and made long before I or many of you were even born. However, there are certain emotions that transcend the boundaries of time and space. In fact, there should have been two posts since I am trying to chronologically arrange my picks. I have not dealt with love stories from Bollywood of our times — that is slightly unfair. Nevertheless, this post is dedicated to those immortal souls of cinematic art who considered movie-making as a love in itself and whose movies we still watch. Social, cultural, economic and so many other factors go into defining what is termed as ‘love’ in this context.

Some intellectualize love, some long for it, some detest it, some philosophize it, some are afraid of its negative dimensions, some contextualize it as the ultimate emotion, while some just live it….

That’s all I have on the question “Do I hate love storys?” Iris hopefully should be back next week with a new post and new story :) . Till then,

The best thing about me is you.
Shannon Crown